I have always found getting dressed up a terrible bore, and since I never bothered with it much I tended to attract the sort of men who didn't set a lot of store by it. Most of the men I went out with prefered me in casual clothes. However, I do wear the kind of underwear my husband likes, which is his main concern as far as clothes go. He would prefer it if I wore more revealing clothing, short skirts and plunge-neck tops being his prefered mode of dress for me, but I just don't feel comfortable in that sort of thing. I used to wear those kind of clothes occasionally when I was young, but at my age I can't bring myself to do it. He's quite happy with jeans so long as they are tight. Baggy trousers are anathema to him, so I never wear them. I do have a wrap-around dress that I bought to wear on the beach, it's much easier to change out of a swimsuit into a dress than struggle into jeans, and that drives him wild. And I've got a couple of other frocks that I sometimes wear in hot weather, but we haven't had much of that this year.
With hair I try to compromise between what he likes and what I would prefer, I'd like it shorter than I wear it and he'd like it longer, but I keep it below shoulder-length in order to keep him reasonably satisfied.
I've never worn makeup, and he's never expressed any desire for me to wear it, so that's all right. I suppose I would give it a go if he expressed a desire for me to wear it, but I wouldn't be terribly happy about it, it's such a drag putting the stuff on.
I've never really worried much about whether I'm feminine enough or not, I jsut try to keep a compromise between what my husband likes and what I like. I suppose since I met most of them men I went out with(including my husband) in a hisorical re-enactment society where I was dressed as a man for most of the time, I didn't tend to attract the sort of men who had rigid ideas about what 'feminine' was.